Sometimes I manage to get through the day only to feel like it was a total loss. Where did time go? What really happened? Was anything of value accomplished? At times, one seemingly unproductive day spills over into the next, until an entire week is gone… completely, totally, utterly gone! Then as I turn the page to the next month on the calendar, what did I have to show for all those days? Sometimes not a whole lot.
When it comes to our struggling relationships, there are moments when we find ourselves dealing with similar issues. The relationship today is no better than it was yesterday…or the day before that. No progress is made. No fences are mended. No healing has occurred. Days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months, and months turn into years. All the while, there is no evidence that substantial progress has been made in moving a strained relationship to a stronger, healthier place.
If you’ve been following this blog over the past several weeks, you are familiar with the relational struggles that existed between the two brothers, Jacob and Esau. The tension between them climaxed when Jacob deceitfully stole the blessing of the firstborn. Esau responded to this injustice with a death threat, forcing Jacob to move away.
Many years later, God prompted Jacob that it was time to return home. Jacob experienced great angst about seeing Esau again, but when the two brothers finally met: “…Esau ran to meet Jacob and embraced him; he threw his arms around his neck and kissed him. And they wept.” (Genesis 33:4, NIV)
Though Scripture does not chronicle Esau’s journey to forgiveness, eventually Esau was able to give up the grudge and offer his brother the priceless gift of grace.
When your heart is aching, longing for a relationship to be restored, it may seem that time is standing still. Yet even in the most hopeless situations, it could be that God is at work behind the scenes, gently chipping away at the bitterness and anger that is standing in the way of reconciliation.
So, keep your heart in a state of readiness. Go to the Father and stay in a right relationship with Him. It may not be today, tomorrow, next month, or even next year. Still, there is hope that even the most badly broken relationships can be made whole again. Don’t lose heart. Walk the path.
Dale Pyne – CEO, Peacemaker Ministries
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