Things Unseen


The sinking of the Titanic was an early 20th century tragedy of epic proportions. At the time, it seemed impossible that this “unsinkable” ship would experience anything but smooth sailing on its maiden voyage. Yet, after striking an iceberg that lay almost undetected under the surface of the cold Atlantic waters, the Titanic began its descent to the bottom of the ocean floor in just a few short hours after the fateful collision.

As with the Titanic, sometimes the greatest dangers in our relationships aren’t terribly obvious – instead, they lay just beneath the surface. While these proverbial “icebergs” have the capacity to do great harm, if we will take the opportunity to ascend to our Father, He can open our eyes to potential hazards – both seen and unseen.

Test me, Lord, and try me, examine my heart and my mind; for I have always been mindful of your unfailing love and have lived in reliance on your faithfulness, (Psalm 26.2-3).

There have been occasions when I have relied on my own instincts and inclinations when navigating troubled waters in relationships. Yet, over time I have found that great planning and good intentions are no substitute for God’s guiding hand in my life. When I rest in His unfailing love and faithfulness and choose to let Him examine my intentions and thoughts, I know He will lead me in the way that is best for me, reveal unknown dangers, and protect me from treacherous relational collisions.

Are you dealing with a difficult issue in a relationship and need insight? Let me encourage you to turn everything over to the One who cares for you and is faithful in guiding you through The Path of a Peacemaker.

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In next week’s post, we’ll start the Reflect portion of our journey on The Path of a Peacemaker. Thank you, friends, for reading and sharing the blog!

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Looking Out for Number One


I recently read this humorous, yet sobering, sign: “CORPORATE EXERCISE PROGRAM CANCELLED.” Below it read, “Scientific research has shown that humans get the required amount of exercise by jumping to conclusions, dodging their responsibilities, flying off the handle, running down their boss, and pushing their luck.”

If you can relate, you are not alone! While there’s a lot of buzz about a “team approach” in the work place, many of us can attest to the fact that there is plenty of room for improvement. Sometimes it’s hard to know how to fend off the conflict that enters our lives, but the Apostle Paul offers some counsel that will help if we’ll take it to heart:

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others,   (Philippians 2:3-4).

For some, this passage in Philippians raises a valid question: “If we aren’t looking out for our own interests, then aren’t we opening ourselves to being walked on like doormats?” Rather than negating the need for truth and accountability, it provides the appropriate framework for those situations when there is a need to address tension and conflict.

As believers who desire harmony and healing in our relationships, we have come to recognize that ambition and vain conceit are the enemies of peace. Yet, with God’s grace and the power of His Spirit, we are empowered to demonstrate the kind of humility and compassion that creates an environment in which relationships can flourish and grow.

As peacemakers, looking out for number one is not about satisfying our own desires. It’s about pleasing our Father – who truly is number one! When we are committed to honoring God and serving others, we can rest assured that the outcome belongs to Him, and that He is eager to “do exceedingly and abundantly above all that we could ask or think, according to the power that works in us” (Eph. 3:20).

Up Ahead on “The Path”…

What is our responsibility and calling as peacemakers? We’ll continue to look at this in the coming weeks. Thank you, friends, for reading and sharing The Path of a Peacemaker blog! Click here to learn more about Peacemaker Ministries.

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Taking the First Step


As we journey The Path of a Peacemaker, there are many things that can trip us up along the way. Pride and stubbornness are among the more obvious obstacles, but there is another equally dangerous stumbling stone – passivity. While I’m waiting for you to take the first step, you are waiting for me, and so the cycle goes. We are waiting, waiting, and waiting some more…

When our hearts are injured, sometimes we feel justified in expecting the other person to offer an act of contrition before we are willing to make a move toward reconciling the relationship. Yet, Jesus offers a different approach:

So if you are presenting a sacrifice at the altar in the Temple and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you, leave your sacrifice there at the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God. (Matthew 5:23-24)

Isn’t it amazing how God can use a sacred moment of worship, a time when our focus is solely on Him, to open our eyes to a problem between us and our fellow man? Yet, when we ascend into God’s presence and align our hearts with His own, He gently reveals to us the relational challenges in our lives and releases us to attend to them – even before we have concluded our time of worship.

When God prompts us to make amends in our relationships, are we willing to disrupt our activities and be obedient to His leading? As peacemakers, our calling is to be purposeful, not passive – to initiate, not hesitate. Whether the conflict is a new challenge or a struggle that has gone on for years, if we are willing, the path to peace can begin in this very moment. The journey may not always be easy, but God is faithful to take us from where we are to where He wants us to go. With His help and guidance, we can take the first step onto The Path of a Peacemaker.

Up Ahead on “The Path”…

What is our responsibility and calling as peacemakers? We’ll continue to look at this in the coming weeks. Thank you, friends, for reading and sharing The Path of a Peacemaker blog!  Click here to learn more about Peacemaker Ministries.

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Pursue Peace


If you’re a sports fan, you know the value of teamwork and the importance of every player leaving it all on the field. Many superior teams have suffered defeat when a group of lesser skilled but more highly committed athletes have succeeded at playing hard and working together.

When entangled in conflict, oddly enough, the team concept has some points of application. In order to resolve an issue, it takes those on both sides of the dispute to come together and be committed to the process of reaching a peaceful resolution. While there are steps we can take to restore peace in our own hearts and with God, living in harmony with our fellow man takes some cooperation from them, too.

“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone,” (Romans 12:8).

While we do all that we can to follow Christ’s example by extending to others the same humility, grace and kindness He has shown to us, ultimately, we can only control our own response to a situation. As for me, I can only determine whether I’ve made my best effort to live at peace with everyone, if possible and as far as it depends on me when I am willing to ask myself some hard questions:

Ascend: Have I surrendered this issue to the Lord and am I seeking His face?

Reflect: Have I thoroughly examined my heart, thoughts and actions?

Connect: Have I exhausted all reasonable methods to humbly connect with the other person and confess my role in the issue?

I admit, I don’t always get it right. Sometimes my best efforts to restore a relationship are unsuccessful. Maybe you can relate. Regardless of what has contributed to unresolved conflict in our lives, it can weigh us down and cause us to question our calling as peacemakers. Rather than giving up, can we be willing to accept new opportunities to resolve the issue? If we’ll ascend to our Father who knows and cares about our circumstances, He will give us all that we need to faithfully continue along The Path of a Peacemaker.

Up Ahead on “The Path”…

What is our responsibility and calling as peacemakers? We’ll continue to look at this in the coming weeks. As always, thanks for reading and sharing The Path of a Peacemaker blog! Click here to learn more about Peacemaker Ministries.

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Ascend: Go to the Father Because… (Part II)

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We’ve all heard the expression about “sticks and stones” and are fully aware that, while sticks and stones may break our bones, the reality is that words really do hurt us. In fact, divisive words may injure something more fragile than our body – they can shatter our hearts. Gossip, lies, backstabbing, and betrayals of all kinds create wounds from which some of us have yet to heal.

Unaddressed injuries such as these can cause a once soft and pliable heart to become calloused and hard. Over time, if we allow the pain to continue to fester beneath the surface, there’s a good chance that our bitterness and unforgiveness may completely consume us.

If we want God to open the door of healing for both our hearts and relationships, our first step is to humbly go (ascend) to our Father because… He welcomes a contrite heart!

“My sacrifice, O God, is a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart you, God, will not despise,” (Psalm 51:17).

No matter what relational difficulties we may be experiencing, when we ascend to our Heavenly Father and surrender our brokenness to Him, He is able to help us see what we cannot see and can strip away any pride or fear so that our hearts will look more like His heart. I confess that this isn’t always my initial reaction in times of conflict, but as I become more seasoned in my faith, I am learning to do this sooner and more often. What a privilege and blessing this has been in my life!

How about you? Do you struggle with going to God first in the midst of conflict? Let me encourage you that He brings hope in the midst of our trials, and His promises to us are sure. As we humble our hearts and receive His tender mercies, He will walk with us on the path of peace.

Up Ahead on “The Path”…

What is our responsibility and calling as peacemakers? We’ll take a look at this in the coming weeks. As always, thanks for reading and sharing The Path of a Peacemaker blog!  Click here to learn more about Peacemaker Ministries.

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