What Are You Living For?

What are you really living for? It’s crucial to realize that you either glorify God, or you glorify something or someone else. You’re always making something look big. If you don’t glorify God when you’re involved in a conflict, you inevitably show that someone or something else rules your heart.

– Ken Sande, Resolving Everyday Conflict

You can purchase Resolving Everyday Conflict online through our bookstore or you can download the audiobook for FREE this month at ChristianAudio.com.

Message at Clarus: TGC Albuquerque

Two weeks ago Rick Friesen, Director of Ministry Relations, led a workshop at The Gospel Coalition‘s event in Albuquerque. Tim Bradley has a good synopsis of the talk over at the Desert Springs Church blog.

“Rick asks, ‘How does the gospel make a difference in our relationships?’ … How does it transform our conflict from a moment of self-focused idolatry into an opportunity for God-exalting grace and love? First, remember who God is. Remember His benevolent, merciful, saving grace in your life. Remember you are His child and ambassador. “

Hop on over to read the rest or to listen to the audio of the talk.


2010 Conference Keynote Audio Now Available!

Download the following sessions here! (right click, save-as)

Joshua Harris

Josh Harris- Forgiven to Forgive, Thursday Night Opening Session: Harris_Keynote.mp3

Chris Brauns

Chris Brauns- Focus on the Future in Order to Unpack Forgiveness Today, Friday Morning Session: Brauns_Keynote.mp3

Ken Sande

Ken Sande- The Most Forgiving People in the World, Friday Evening Session: Sande_Keynote.mp3

Thabiti Anyabwile

Thabiti Anyabwile- Confession and Forgiveness Bring Freedom, Saturday Morning Session: Anyabwile_Keynote.mp3

Bishop Efraim Tendero

Bishop Efraim Tendero- When We Forgive: The Power of Forgiveness in Communties, Sunday Morning Session: Tendero_Keynote.mp3


I’ve been listening to a little bit of Dave Harvey’s message from our 2009 Peacemaker Conference entitled “God’s Mercy and My Marriage.” The whole thing is SO worth listening to, and I encourage you to check it out if you haven’t heard it (or give it another listen if you have). You can download it for free from our website.

Here are some of Harvey’s opening comments on mercy:

[Mercy is] an amazing, unique, exceptional word that we rarely hear talked about within the culture that is a biblical theme that starts springing at us in the book of Genesis and goes all the way through Revelation. This word is one that we must understand because we are called by God to be merciful, and that calling begins with the person sitting next to you.

Mercy addresses how God relates to us as sinners; it describes his disposition of kindness, of patience, of forgiveness towards us despite the fact that we’ve rebelled against him and can be oriented to rebelling against him still. It describes how God suffered for sinners in Jesus Christ and suffers with sinners. Mercy arms the believer with a whole new language, with a whole new vocabulary of God’s love because all of a sudden when we talk about mercy, God’s longsuffering gets put into play. Words like forbearance begin to enter the discussion. Compassion is restored to our marriage.

…We talk about the mercy of God, and we find in the cross that the Father was merciful by sending the Son to die for our sins. Without the cross, “the Father is merciful” can become the sentimental actions of a tender old deity. It’s the cross that makes mercy real because it defines what it means in the reality that God did not treat us as our sins deserved.

Harvey goes on to apply that mercy in three specific areas of marriage/relationships: mercy in kindness, mercy in covering, and mercy for weakness.  The overarching theme is this: “Mercy introduces ministry as a primary goal in marriage.”

Again, here’s the link to download the whole message.

Cravings Underlie Conflict

“Cravings underlie conflict.”    — David Powlison

A short audio message was posted this week on CJ Mahaney’s blog based on James 4:1-3. He was talking about this passage in the context of marriage, but it holds equally true for any relationship.

It’s a great reminder of the real source of conflict–the heart. As you see that conflicts come from the desires (i.e., cravings or wants) that battle within us, you will begin to see that if you discern what it is you want, you are on your way to repentance and ultimately, reconciliation.

Cravings, Conflict, and Marriage
C.J. Mahaney
Dec. 4, 2009
7 minutes
Download here (7.9 MB)